Judgement

Have you ever felt like you are being judged? You are too skinny, too fat, you don’t make enough money, your kids are not in the best colleges, you’re not wearing the best name brand clothes or using the fad products. You’re a single mom or dad, divorced, widowed. Taking or not taking a certain medicine. Masked or unmasked. You name it I am sure people will judge you by it. Did anyone ever stop to think that one person’s life is not the same as another’s? It leads a person to think they are not worthy or successful. They keep chasing that invisible carrot.

Success and feeling worthy are not components of what others say about you. You, on the inside knows the value of what you do and who you really are. You, the person who lives inside your body every day is the only one who knows what is best for you, and also your children if you have them. Too many times people are judged by the way they look or by how their children are acting in public. Who is anyone to judge? Can anyone really tell me that these people who are judging have it all together? What is altogether and who is the judge of that? It’s like eating once and for all. It does not exist.

I remember a time when I was young that I had to have food stamps. I was in high school and a single mother living on my own at the age of 16. I did not want to be a high school drop out because I felt that my education was important to me just as much as my daughter. So, I had to have some assistance. I was in line paying for my food, which I did my best to buy the most nourishing kind. People behind me were huffing and puffing and complaining because I was taking up their time tearing out those food stamps. Making comments about how low I was because I was taking from the system. Really? I was just trying to survive. Trying to make myself better and I felt that an education would help me to get a better job so I could get off food stamps. Did they know that? No, did they ask, no. They just came upon a young mother with a child and food stamps and thought oh what a piece of dirt, a teen pregnancy and living off the system. They did not see all the hard work I was doing to bring my daughter up. Not looking at the hard work to finish school to get a better job. No drug use, no alcohol problem, no addictions at all except for getting up every day to make my life and my daughter’s life better.

This made me feel very discouraged yet I continued on. Each day making ends meet as best I could. Looking in the mirror and telling myself I will have a better life. Each day I would find something to be grateful for and try to ignore people who were judging me. I would try my best to stay away from people like that. Yet I always seemed to find them. Many times I felt hopeless and alone. Feeling unworthy of things. I had to take the time to process what was going on and told myself to rise above it. I have each and every day of my life.

I have met some awful people and some wonderful people. Now I am happily married and surround myself with wonderful people. People who value me. One thing I realized though is that it is not about the people around you that make you feel worthy. Though it is wonderful to be appreciated and loved for who you are. It is you, what is inside you that makes you worthy. You are worthy just by being YOU. When you go about your day doing things that do not align with your values to fit into a mold someone else is trying to put you in. You will not feel worthy, because you are trying to accomplish something someone else has set for you. But, you are worthy. You are worthy of love, respect, caring, happiness and all the good things in life. When you know you are worthy the universe will pull wonderful people into your circle of life. These people will compliment you and make your life even better. They won’t judge you they will know you for the person you really are.

Take the time to get to know who you are. What are your values and what will you stand for and not stand for. When you take this time to really look at what you want for your life then you will be filled with more joy. People who judge you will not even be on your radar anymore. You will attract caring and loving people into your life. People who will support you and where you are going and they will be with you on your journey. Those old feeling of unworthiness and judgement are thrown out the door and the you that has always been inside you will come out and shine like the sun.